Reclaim Your Female Joy

Welcome to our world, a Blissful world, an ecstatic world. Do you live in ecstasy? Or, do you wonder where all the joy has gone? Of course I'm talking about the joy of love, romance and sex!

In the past, dysfunction described, and to a large extent, still describes our societies attitude about sex. This created a closed-door, fearful and sometimes shameful attitude which has kept many people, especially women, from learning about their own sexuality, as well as the sexual needs of their partner. Many turn to the mass media to teach them about sex, so how do you think that's working? Is it working for you? Or, do you desire to know more?

I'm glad to say our society is undergoing a positive, cultural shift toward openness and honesty when it comes to discussing sex. We're slowly evolving into a sex-positive culture, and Blissful Lotus is honored to be part of this dynamic movement by helping women (and their partners) explore sexual solutions and intimacy enhancement in their everyday relationships.

Through education and commitment to female sexual health & pleasure, we are committed to demystifying the secrecy surrounding sex in order to promote a healthy & healing dialogue of wholeness and respect.

For too long, women have been afraid to openly talk and ask questions about a basic need, the medical community is finally starting to acknowledge is a part of a healthy, fulfilling life…sex. Blissful Lotus is dedicated to providing in-home party experiences that create a safe environment where women feel comfortable to ask questions about intimacy and sexuality. Today’s woman is ready to reclaim her sexuality in a loving and compassionate way; and Blissful Lotus is here to be your romance guide.

Sexual Stages In A Relationship

This helpful article will bring to light what sexual stage your relationship is in, and how you can turn up the heat and passion. So find out if you're in the:

• Sweatpants Stage
• Conflict Stage
• Sleep Stage
• Waking Up Stage

(Article originally published by Tammy Nelson & adapted for this website)

Falling in love is easy. That’s why we call it “falling” and not “climbing.” Sometimes we even plummet into love. This falling idea implies we don’t have a choice. It also means we don’t have control. Falling in love is an emotional bungee jump, an adventurous free fall into the unknown depths of imagined romance. There is an element of excitement to that “falling” feeling. When we relax our guard and let ourselves love another person, we get into the rush. It’s only later that we say to ourselves, “Oh, wait, what was I thinking?”

In the early phases of romantic love, everything feels easy. We are excited to see our beloved. We think about them often. We desire them sexually. And sometimes we feel like we can’t get enough.

At some point, the fall seems to slow down. Maybe it even stops. For some of us the ground rushes up fast, and we slam into the hard cold reality of real relationship. Our partner doesn’t always adore us. We don’t always feel cherished. Sometimes they annoy us. And sex isn’t as spontaneous and passionate as it was during the free fall stage. The relationship moves into a more settled place and sometimes we wonder whether we are still in love. When the sex is different, the highs are not as high, and the attraction is not the same, does this mean that we are no longer in love? What happened to the passion? Long-term relationships are not necessarily a death sentence for love and desire. These phases of partnership are normal and common to everyone. Sexual excitement and passion are part of a conscious relationship, where a shared vision of connected, intimate partnership is part of the work of couple hood.

Better sex and more passion often require more conscious choice. It may not feel effortless anymore like it did in the free fall phase of your relationship. But now we have the opportunity to create the passion we really want.

The "Sweatpants" Stage

After the romantic phase has come to a landing, we settle into a commitment with our partner and we start to relax. The more familiar we are with each other, the safer and more comfortable we feel, and more of our real selves come to the surface. We may begin to relax our appearance. We sometimes start to put on weight or forget to shave as often or just become careless about our looks. We stop worrying about attracting our partner and start to worry about whether or not we are attracted to them.

Sex during the “sweatpants” stage may be comforting; we know more about our partner’s needs and what they enjoy. We feel more confident in our ability to please our partner. We might slide into “maintenance sex,” no longer trying new things, just focusing on what works. Maintenance sex can be great, but not always as passionate as we desire.

The Conflict Stage

When we go into a conflict stage (and we all do), sex can sometimes be used to keep score. If we are happy with our partner, we feel more open to erotic connection. Conflict and resentment may prevent us from wanting to be intimate. Sex may become a way to heal rifts, or it may decrease in frequency as we begin to pull away, protecting ourselves from stress.

When conflict goes on for too long, and there is defensive behavior in both partners, we may begin to withdraw from each other. We pull back from the relationship, trying to protect ourselves from harm. We might accept the conflict as unavoidable and decide that it’s worth staying in the relationship for a variety of reasons; including the fact that we still remember the passion of the romantic love stage and hope that someday we can get back to that initial feeling.

The Sleep Stage

We make a choice, instead of ending the relationship, to go to “sleep,” sinking into the inevitability of unhappiness, and focus on outside interests to keep us feeling energized. This begins the “sleep” phase of the relationship.

The sex in the sleep phase may be the only time there is connection in the partnership. Sex is a way to feel closer to a partner and renew a sense of commitment. This may also be a time when we start fantasizing about other lovers, or perhaps split off our erotic needs into affairs, internet relationships or pornography. Sometimes we just wonder what happened to all the passion and energy in our relationship.

In the “sleep” stage the sexual relationship begins to wane. Couples at this phase of their relationship may begin to complain about lack of interest in sex, sexual dysfunction, and non-initiation, feelings of rejection, abandonment, and resentment toward their partner. (Note: Many physical reasons exist for sexual dysfunction, including blood pressure medications, heart medications, cholesterol medications, menopause, hormonal imbalances, thyroid medication, birth control pills, and antidepressants. See your doctor for physical symptoms of sexual dysfunction, including erectile dysfunction and lack of interest in sex.)

Waking Up

The good news is that there is another stage of sexual relationship: the “waking up” stage. Sometimes one or both partners recognize that the partnership needs help to return to or begin a new stage of passion and connection. This is the time that many couples come to therapy or seek out couples workshop. One partner recognizes the problem and doesn’t want to stay asleep. Both partners remember the “alive” feeling of sexual connection and of falling in love. They want to feel energized and passionate again. The process of learning to talk to each other begins.

Just as in the early stages of relationship, when we seek to know our partner intimately, we can bring new excitement to our relationships later when we learn ways to communicate about sex. Better lovers bring more skills to the relationship and increase the depth of erotic life. Couples can do this at any phase of relationship, bringing a new level of passion to the relationship.

When we learn how to talk about the things that scare us, we experience a greater level of intimacy. Loving feelings then naturally increase toward our partner. Risk can make sex exciting and many times increases feelings of attachment.

Much of the delight in the early stages of relationships comes from the discovery of our partner. Learning about our love object, unveiling our own inner selves, and finding erotic charge from the shared discovery keeps us engaged and present in relationship. Remaining curious about your partner, learning ways they receive pleasure, and what they desire, can renew those early feelings of “falling in love.” Falling into the passion can be a conscious choice at any phase of your relationship. Through conscious dialogue and a commitment to growth, couples can have the passion and love they desire.

Your Assignment - Sex Date

Make a date with your partner for sex. Sex dates are an important part of creating spontaneity and special time in your relationship. It shows commitment and intention to your partnership, and simultaneously adds a caring and more erotic element to your connection. Ironically, spontaneity only happens when you plan it! Pick one night a week and know that you will have some type of sexual contact, even if you don’t feel like it in the moment. Sometimes arousal comes before desire - don’t wait for the desire to hit. You are creating an environment where desire can flourish, once it is aroused.

For more information or specific exercises to do on Sex Date night, the book Getting the Sex You Want by Tammy Nelson is available on Amazon.

Art of Seduction

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Feminine Arts & Techniques

Adapted from “Sexual Bewitchery” by Barrie Dolnick, Julia Condon & Donna Limoges
Within every woman is a Goddess. By tuning in to your innate sense of your feminine skills, you can unleash hidden powers that can transform you into an innocent wildflower or a daring vamp. This intuitive guide will help you to resurrect those elusive and erotic talents.

All women possess the power to be alluring and mysterious – but few know how to use it wisely. Whether you’re seducing the man of your dreams or trying to meet him, it is within you to create that powerful draw of attraction to ignite passion, connection and fulfillment. This is about celebrating your womanhood and using your inborn wisdom to attract love and find fulfillment.

Feminine Arts & Techniques
The following information list popular scents, colors, hues, fabrics, and foods that speak the language of love, sex and sometimes, “get lost”. You can use these definitions to decipher what your outfits have been saying to people all these years.

Allure the Senses with Scent
To obtain these scents, you can use scented lotions, oils, candles, and any other natural fragrance to the carry the message.

To Entice

• Vanilla General fragrance for welcoming and warmth
• Lavender Opens the space for connection and love
• Orange Blossom Stimulates root center to bring our your sensuality

To Seduce

• Cinnamon “Heat” generator. Raises your energy and the energy of those around you
• Jasmine Heightens allure for that come-hither appeal
• Musk Evokes sexual stimulation
• Rose Heart connection when you are already with someone. It has a subtle resonance

Lovemaking

• Honeysuckle For making love. Brings heart, throat, and brow into focus, helping to expand the lovemaking experience beyond the physical
• Ylang Ylang Connects allure, love and desire

Color Conjuring: Your Message Guide

• Cold Colors Aloof, remote, cool, not demure, “ice queen”
• Warm Colors Friendly, open, inviting, “come hither”
• Pastels Young, simple, fresh icy, girlish
• Earth Tones Inviting, not flirty, fertile, illuminated, warm
• Neutrals Blank, remote, “business”
• Jewel Tones Clear, direct, rich, touchable, reverent

The Power of Fabrics

• Silk This is the fabric of attraction. It can lend mystery to your look, because it veils you while being alluring.
• Damasks, Satins and Velvets These are passion raisers. Their richness invites touch and exudes warmth and heat. The sheen of satin and the glow of velvet signal open sensuality.
• Leather Power

Delightful Delectables

• Lust Inducing Chocolate, cinnamon, mint, nuts, vanilla, olives
• Love Inducing Apple, apricot, cherry, chili pepper, figs, maple, mango, peppermint, plums, strawberry

The perfect Seduction tools: Silkey Sheets Spray, Kama Sutra Honey Dust, Shunga Soft Moves Massage Cream, Deluxe Mitt & Ladyfinger

Seduction: The 64 Arts of the Kama Sutra

Seduction is an art that is usually associated with attracting the opposite sex. Though it is not always sexual, it does help you to get that dose of attention you seek from the members of the opposite sex. Moreover, you can say that it is not handed over at birth, rather is made up with your own efforts. All you need is the right attitude, perfect body language, confidence and a charming persona to achieve that seductress look. Catching eyeballs is not difficult, but it is important to understand that the vibes you send across should not send wrong signals.

The Orient did not consider sex apart from, or opposed to, spirituality or religion. The sex act was given a place of honor and was intimately connected with the other arts.

The Sixty-Four Arts should be conceived as the Paths of Creative Energy. They are the emanations of the goddess Saraswati, the "anima" of Jungian psychology. They can be likened to the flames of an inner sun, blazing from the solar plexus. Burning up all negativity, these flames of the creative attitude purify the psyche and bring about an inner transformation. As practical skills of the outer world, they delight others and fulfill the talented practitioner.

The Kama Sutra, the classical Indian treatise on the Art of Love, enumerates the Sixty-four Arts. The text advises that these should be studied along with the Kama Sutra, preferably under the guidance of a teacher. These arts and sciences (for no distinction between them was then made) include singing, music, dancing, writing, drawing, painting, sewing, reading, recitation, poetry, sculpture, gymnastics, games, flower arranging, cooking, decoration, perfumery, gardening, mimicry, mental exercises, languages, etiquette, carpentry, magic, chemistry, mineralogy, gambling, architecture, logic, charm-making, religious rites, household management, disguise, physical sports, and martial arts plus many specialized activities related to the culture and time. The accomplishments expected of young women in Victorian times echoed this idea. To update this, the arts related to more recent technical innovations, such as photography, could be added.

The Indian treatises on love suggest that both men and women should be well versed in as many of the Sixty-four Arts as possible. Two arguments as to why these arts should be studied are presented in the texts. First, a person who is accomplished in them is automatically given an honorable place in society. Second, through the application of these arts one can more easily win over the object of desire, be it husband, wife or lover, and provide more fulfillment. Easily be self supporting by the application of these skills.

7 Keys to Bedroom Bliss

Lover's Guide

Adapted from an article originally written by Suzie Heumann

The ancient societies of China, Japan, India and the Middle East were very well versed in sexuality. They considered it a science and delved deeply into the meaning and practices surrounding many aspects of sensuality, sexuality and love. As long ago as 2000 BC the Love Arts became firmly established as an integral component of a healthy lifestyle.

Many books have been written on this suject but there is a set of 'Keys' that will help you right now to transforming your sexual experience. These keys can be practiced and experimented with for your own personal pleasure. Each of us is different, and yet each of us is the same in many ways, so your unique sexploration with these keys will depend on you and the experience you want.

Key #1: Breath of Life
You may not think breathing is very sexy but you couldn't be further from the truth. The benefits are extraordinary and have direct health benefits, too. Learning to breathe deeply into your belly increases relaxation, decreases tension and stress, and puts more oxygen into your blood stream. Oxygen is what delivers the 'O' in Orgasm.

Key #2: Be “Present”, Be in “The NOW”
Before you begin making love, sit on the bed, facing each other, and eye gaze and breathe deeply together. Eye gazing is easy - simply soften your eyes and look into your partner's eyes without "doing anything." The eyes are the windows to the soul. The next time you are making love look deeply into your lover's eyes. Experience the whole event from that perspective, if possible.

Key #3: Sexercise Your Love Muscles
Learn the right way to do Kegel or PC muscle sexercises and DO them. Your orgasms will be stronger and longer and more satisfying if you have strong PC muscles. You will want sex more often - you'll be turned-on more. You'll like this if you want to up the ante on your sex drive.

Key #4: Sensual Touch
Pay close attention to how you are touching. Be very deliberate in the touch quality you offer. Put your attention on what you are doing. Notice if your own fingers feel exquisite to you. If they do then your lover will be feeling it too!

Key #5: Create a sensual spirit in the bedroom
A deep sense of spirit and sensuality is easy to create, especially in your bedroom. Design a space that is sensual, cozy, and restful. Throughout most high cultures of the past, the art of decoration and placement was an important aspect of how life was conducted. Combining the sensual with the spiritual can birth a fresh essence in your relationship.

Key #6: See your partner as a Goddess or a God
Ancient Eastern societies believed that each individual was the earthly manifestation of the God and Goddess. This belief held each individual responsible for their moral behavior to match that of the Gods. The Sanskrit word Namaste (na-ma-stay) exemplifies this concept. It is used as a greeting and means "the divine in me sees the divine in you." When we can overlook the little nuisances that bother us about our partners, and hold them in a divine light, our relationships are much more fun and meaningful.

Key #7: Communicate
Use your brain, your heart, and your voice during sex. Communicate!
Here's a simple 3-step lesson to use when you aren't getting what you want:

1. Make a small compliment about something that is right. "Honey, I like the light touch you're using on my..."
2. Make a single request: "Could you try doing the same thing but faster?"
3. Make a comment: "Wow, I thought that would be great but it doesn't work." Or "Yes, that's it. Oh my!"

Get the picture? It's called a sandwich: Say something that is working, ask for a single change, make an acknowledgement of the change, whether it worked or not. With this kind of a feedback cycle you'll both be more empowered to learn so much more about each other.

A Sensual Evening ala The Kama Sutra:
Tantric philosophy says that the search for knowledge is in everything you do, see, and experience. Being aware of your senses - touch, smell, taste, sight, and hearing - and using them consciously will create a more mindful life.

Bedroom Bliss - Love Ritual

Create an evening with your lover that brings you back to your senses. Prepare everything you'll need ahead so that the experience flows.

• Bathe each other and towel each other dry.
  
• Decide who will go first, then blindfold the Receiver and lie them down on your bed.
  
• Treat them to different modalities of touch: a feather, a rose, a piece of fur, a piece of velvet, and see if they can identify what it is you are using. Blow on them softly. Trail a silk scarf or your hair over the length of their body.


• Pass bits of fruit under their nose for them to enjoy smelling. Try a flower from your garden. Dab a bit of perfume or a scented oil on your fingertips and wave it in the air. Use things that are subtle to the senses.


• Gather a small bell, a chime, your charm bracelet, some dry leaves on a branch, a crystal glass to ring, a Tibetan bowl, or anything else you can think of that would produce exquisite sounds for your partner to experience.


• Even bending close to their ear and breathing softly will work. Have them taste the different fruits you earlier passed by their nose now. A bit of whipped cream, chocolate, or liqueur would do nicely, too.
  
• Remember to remind your partner to breathe deeply and take it all in.

The point of this evening is to treat your partner to a complete sensory experience. When you block one of the senses like sight the other senses become heightened. You can then experience them more deeply and become "aware" of their essences. You can come to your senses again.

13 Secrets of Self-Love: The Art of Female Self-Pleasuring

13 Secrets of Self-Love
Since ancient civilization, self-pleasuring (autoeroticism) has been practiced as a natural and elegant way of honoring the gift of a body and communing with one's inner divinity. Even today, sex therapists extol the benefits of self-pleasuring as a vital tool for self-knowledge and relationship enhancement. Sexual satisfaction with a lover is attained by first becoming a sexual virtuoso with yourself. Simply put it’s the LAW OF ATTRACTION!

Secret #1: Self-pleasuring is the single most important thing you can do to become a truly great lover

You learn: what most turns you on, what makes you feel less inhibited, what feels good, how long you like to be stimulated, how sensitive your sexual areas are, the best way for you to reach orgasm etc.
Intimacy Aids: Instructional DVDs, Erotic Toys

Secret #2: Self-pleasuring makes you feel sexy

Thinking about sex makes you feel sexy; preparing to have sex makes you feel sexy; knowing and appreciating your body makes you feel sexy. The more pleasure you get the more you want. The more you learn to enjoy, the more you can handle.
Intimacy Aids: Bath & body products, creams, lotions

Secret #3: Self-pleasuring puts you in touch with your bodyMost of the time, we ignore our bodies.

A luxurious session of self-play can help you focus attention on the sensations of your skin, muscles and erogenous zones. You can reclaim the joy of being alive and having a body that was made for pleasure.
Intimacy Aids: Massage oils, massage mits, lubricants

Secret #4: Self-pleasuring strengthens and increases the flexibility of your love muscle

Having strong and flexible pelvic muscles is crucial to great sex. In women, the pubococcygeus muscle is the main love muscle - it's the one that contracts during orgasm. Conversely, the increased blood supply and toning contractions of orgasm vitalize the muscle. You can exercise these muscles during self-pleasuring.
Intimacy Aid: Smart Balls

Secret #5: Self-pleasuring teaches you how to have orgasms - easily and quickly

Many women have never had an orgasm with or without a partner. Some are not sure if they have or not. The truth is once you learn how and where your body needs to be stimulated to have an orgasm, you can be in charge and have them any time you want. You can try out all kinds of fun things in complete privacy.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Clitoral Stimulants

Secret #6: Self-pleasuring puts you in control of your own pleasure

When you know your own body and its sexual responses you can control whether, when and how to have your orgasm - with or without a partner.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Glass Dildos, Dongs

Secret #7: Self-pleasuring leads to self-confidence in all areas of life

When you know how to turn yourself on and realize that you can do so anytime without depending on anyone else, you will gain a tremendous sense of self-control and self-confidence. This surety in yourself spreads to other areas of your life. You can become an asset to the rest of the world when you're happy, strong and fulfilled.

Secret #8: Self-pleasuring is the key to overcoming sexual guilt and self-repression

Our bodies love to be stroked and caressed. They thrive on it. If deprived of physical affection they can become ill. Finding out that self-pleasuring is a natural and beautiful function, something that makes you feel good about yourself and more loving to those around you, frees you of all that guilt you may be carrying around.You will be able to express your sexuality and your true self more freely - and with your lucky lover. You can start enjoying sex more and regretting it less.

Secret #9: Self-pleasuring promotes health, well-being and energy

Your sex muscles are not isolated. Healthy well-toned pelvic muscles lead to healthy well-toned stomach and leg muscles etc. as well as increased flow of blood and energy. It boosts your energy production and releases endorphins which create a sense of well-being. So for a quick mental and physical pick-me-up that will also build longer-term health - indulge in your favorite form of self-play.

Secret #10: Self-pleasuring reduces stress and tension

The intense muscular and emotional release of self-induced orgasm provides a tonic for anxiety, tense muscles, job stress (but be careful doing it at the office!!) or just general frustration. Stress and tension restrict the flow of blood and energy through your body and cause blocks to creativity, good health and joyful living. Self-pleasuring can soothe and release these tensions with the simple touch of a finger!! It can also help you to sleep.

Secret #11: Self-pleasuring enhances lovemaking with your lover

If you're hot, you can't help but light your lover's fire! You can bring new vigor to your partner's body and imagination. You can be much more creative as a lover and can teach your lover all sorts of sizzling new sex tricks. If you've learnt to be more deeply intimate with yourself, you can be more intimate with your partner.

Secret #12: In the age of HIV/AIDS, self-pleasuring is the ultimate in safe sex

Obviously, when you have sex only with yourself, you are in no danger of catching a sexually transmitted infection from someone else. But even with a partner, self-pleasuring or mutual masturbation with and for each other can be a delightful way to stay safe. Using your hands, vibrators, dildos and even playful fruit, allows you to exchange a lot of loving and fun sexual energy without exchanging body fluids.

Secret #13: The joy of self-pleasuring is always available

Morning, evening, between times, while traveling, at the beach, on a plane, when your partner's sleeping or away, between lovers, after a divorce, when you're lonely - you can always pleasure yourself.

6 Steps To Kissable Lips

Want extra smoochable lips this season?

Of course you do. Here’s how to get them, on the quick!

Step 1.

Prepare your lips by using warm water, a wash cloth and a lip mask or another safe, grainy cleanser. Apply the mask or cleanser directly to moist lips. Allow to set while you prepare the warm cloth. Rub the mask/cleanser off by using circular motions. This will help work most of the dead, dry skin off, revealing smoother, plumper lips. This step should be done once or twice per week.

Step 2.

Slick on a lip balm with SPF. Choose something that is moisturizing, but not greasy. Vaseline is great for night, but is a disaster under lipstick. Allow balm to set on lips for several minutes, if possible.

Step 3.

Line lips. Choose a liner two shades or so darker than your lipstick, and trace your natural lipline, paying special attention to your Cupid’s Bow (the “V” part of your top lip). Once lips are lined, color in the remainder of the lip with the liner as well. This gives a nice base color in case your lipstick later does the slide.

Step 4.

Add color. Now it’s time to slather on your lipstick. After your first coat, grab a lint-free tissue and blot by placing the tissue between your upper and lover lips, and pressing down. Next, swipe on another coat. If possible, separate a 2-ply tissue so it’s one-ply, then place the tissue gently over lips and dab with loose powder. The tissue acts as a filter, allowing just enough of the powder to get through to set the lipstick without changing the lip’s color or texture.

Step 5.

Choose a gloss to highlight and plump. With gloss, you want to dab, rather than slick. A small dab of a shimmery or light-grabbing gloss in the center of your bottom lip will plump up your pout in an instant. That one small move adds dimension and a shot of light to your lips, drawing the eyes of you-know-who right where you want them.

Step 6.

Blot. Place your index finger between your lips and pucker up. See the lipstick left on your skin? That could’ve been on your teeth. Do it again, just to be safe.
So, that’s it. Remember to change up colors to suit your moods, but to also have one “constant” color in your purse or locker for emergencies. Investing in a lip mask is a great idea, but if Santa’s not springing this year, just be sure to work that warm wash cloth around your lips.

Originally published by: Teen Style Lounge

The Art of Kissing

Think back to the days when you and the love of your life (or of the moment at least) kissed; before you actually had sex - either for the first time or the first time for the two of you. Remember how exciting and passionate it was? How it could go on for hours? Well, it's time to take back the KISS as a sensual artform itself, not just a prelude to "the act."

Why, I'm sure you're asking? If you're a sexually active adult, then you must be wondering why shouldn't kissing continue to be foreplay that leads to sex? I'm not saying that we need to ban sex, but what I am suggesting is limiting how far you go from time to time would actually go a long way toward making your sexual experiences richer and even more enjoyable. Are you intrigued?

Let's explore the "Art of Kissing" from an emotional, mental and physical level:

Return to The Days of Innocense.
And yes, that can be a good thing. No matter how much of an, uh ., experienced lass or lad you are, there was a time B.I. - Before Intercourse. A time when everyone knew what the limits were, so there was no pressure about going further. You could just enjoy the moment and all of the new feelings. Of course, there was always the idea of sex in the back of everyone's mind - that's what made the making out so "dangerous" - but for the most part, no one had to seriously confront that issue, so it was just hours of glorious liplock.

You'll be Reminded of Why You Were Attracted to Your Partner in the First Place.

That first kiss in a relationship is so many things - excitement, nervousness, an assessment. (Yes, it's true; we equate the way our partners kiss with how good they'll be while horizontally engaged. This should not come as a surprise to anyone.) It's also the first time we feel that spark - that electrical feeling that jolts us when chemistry is happening between two people. It's giddy, it's arousing, and it can be recaptured.

OK, so you're hopefully warming up to this experiment. Now, how to implement it? I'll be the first to admit that this may take a little cunning - particularly if you're currently in a relationship that has crossed the sexual border many, many times. You don't want to be a complete tease or make your partner think that you aren't attracted to him or her anymore, but you also need to control the situation. So, the most important thing is to undertake this semi-spontaneously. Don't plan an Intercourse Embargo when you've got a special night on the horizon - romantic dinner, an anniversary, etc. - because frankly, that's just cruel.

It will take a bit of resolve on your part as well, because, let's face it, we enjoy having sex with our partners. And honestly, if things do progress to the point of no return, there's certainly no harm in it. You'll just have to try again. and how is that a bad thing?

Suggestions for Successful Kissing:

Take Your Lover by Surprise.

Some of the most exciting kisses are the ones we're not expecting. They don't even have to be soulful, tongue-twisting extravaganzas, either. The next time you're just sitting quietly together or even out walking around, try grabbing your sweetie and laying one on their lips - you'll both be surprised by how satisfying it can be. Just be mindful of where you are, and if things do start to get hot and heavy, do everyone a favor and find a more private spot.

Stay Dressed.

Make sure you're fully clothed before you commit to this endeavor. You're only tempting feelings of rejection if you prance around in something skimpy beforehand and then try to convince your kissing partner not to go any further.

Use Different Techniques to Keep Things Simmering; Not Boiling.

Once you've found a place to get comfortable, don't start going to town immediately. The point is to build things up, not to get you both immediately worked up and frustrated. If there's a move that you know gets your lover's heart racing (like earlobe nibbling or lip biting), do it, but only for a split second. Then get back to the kissing. Maybe kiss around their lips for a little bit, then come back to the main attraction. And don't be frantic about any of it. If you sense that control is being lost, just slow your own pace ,and your partner will most likely follow. Also, it's very important that the furthest south the kissing goes is the collarbone. Do I really need to explain why?

The Art of Kissing (The Embrace)

Remember the importance of embrace...
Nothing feels more comforting than being in the arms of the one you love. Personally, few things get me hotter when my boyfriend and I are kissing than when he places both hands on my face. It just feels so intimate - as though I'm the only one on Earth that he's ever kissed like that. Yes, I know that's not true (yes, it is!), but there's nothing wrong with feeding the fantasy. So, run your fingers through your partner's hair, caress their faces, touch their lips and pull them closer to you.

But also remember the importance of not touching.
Obviously, this kissing-only outing is not going to last if you're both groping each other's privates. Try to keep the fondling to the arms, neck, back and shoulders. If your mate is trying to go for the gold, simply move his or her hand elsewhere. The best move for this is to take the wandering hand and just entwine it with yours, or maybe turn it into a playful restraint situation by taking both of their hands and gently pinning them with your own, above the head or to the sides.

Try getting things started when you know you or your partner have to go somewhere soon.
That guarantees (for the most part - I've not discounted quickies) a stopping point without anyone's feelings getting hurt. It also gives you that revved up, "I can't wait to get back home" feeling that can make for some pretty explosive sexual encounters later.

Mostly, just have fun.
Again, this is to improve your love life, not restrict it. Obviously, if you're feeling it, then you should do whatever makes you feel good. Or if you know that your partner will be taken aback by not "closing the deal," then teasingly whisper that you're trying to get them hot and bothered so that when you do make love later, it will be better than ever.

So there you have it - a simple blueprint for Makeout City. Whether or not you use these particular techniques, kissing your own sweet baboo (and no, that's not a euphemism for any body part) will enrich and enliven your relationship. Not to mention, it will assure your partner that you love them and lets them know that, regardless of the longevity of your twosome, you are still attracted to them. Now, go load up on lip balm, turn on the radio, and get to smooching!

The Kissing Guide

And for those that want MORE Direction--- The following is a list of some simple techniques to spice up a kiss:

Triumverat
Kiss between the eyes, on the tip of the nose, and then on the lips.

Top and Bottom
Kiss the top lip, then the bottom lip, then both.

Lickable Lips
Run the tip of your tongue along your partner's lips.

Earlobecstacy
Gently kiss, nibble, and suck on the earlobe.

Facial Lines
Trace the neck and jawbone with your lips and tongue.

The Big Tease
Kiss everywhere but the lips, until your partner pulls you to their lips.

Caressed Lips
Rub your finger gently across their lips and then go in for a kiss.

Sensuality
Look in their eyes and whisper you want to kiss them. Press your lips gently to theirs', caress their lips with yours and then give her/him a passionate kiss.

Cheeky
Gently brush cheeks with your partner.

Eskimo Kiss
Gently rub the tips of your noses together.

Butterfly
Brush eyelashes with your partner. Make a fluttering motion of the eyelash by quickly opening and closing the eye.

Rose Petals
Make a small "O" with your lips. Press your lips against your partner's skin and suck softly. Lift your lips off a little, move over slightly, and repeat.

Hostage Kiss
Cover your lips with tape and get your partner's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say, tell them, "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss them passionately.

Strawberry Secret
Place a strawberry in your mouth without your partner knowing. Crush the strawberry in your mouth and feed some to your partner while you kiss.

Cold as Ice
Put a piece of ice in your mouth without your partner knowing. Kiss them on the neck and let the ice softly touch their skin.

Back Kisses
Snuggle up behind your partner and proceed to cover their back with little kisses.

Foot Kisses
When your lover comes home from work, or wherever, wash their feet and give them a massage. While you're giving them the massage, lean over and give little kisses on their feet.

Hershey's Kiss
Try not to kiss your partner all day. Throughout the day leave Hershey's kisses or some sort of romantic candy in places that they will know it's for them. Later in the day start leaving notes with poetry or quotes on kissing for them. After that, leave a love letter describing how you'd like to kiss them and the satisfaction that it would bring you. Once you feel they've had enough teasing, spend sometime rewarding them with lots of kissing! This is rewarding for yourself as well, since you've been thinking about kissing them all day too.

Red Light Kiss
When in the car with your partner, every time you stop at a red light, lean over and kiss them until the light goes green.

Recorded Kiss
Record the sound of yourself blowing a kiss. Then either e-mail it to your partner or leave a note somewhere with instructions to press play.

Video Kiss
Record on a videotape or web cam yourself blowing kisses to your partner and tell them how much you miss them.

E-mail Kiss
Draw or animate a pair of lips kissing. Then send it to your sweetheart.

The Lost Kiss
Look around your partner, looking under things and appearing like you're searching for something. When asked what you're looking for, say "I've been looking for a kiss all day but I can't find one anywhere. Oh wait, I found it." Then give your partner a kiss.

Wake Up Kiss
Before your partner awakes, lean over and kiss their cheek. Then give soft kisses across their cheek until you reach their lips.

Make Up Kisses
At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and ask them how his/her day went. Silently keep track of all the bad things that happened during the day. When he/she is finished, give them a kiss for each one. When asked what you are doing, say you are helping make up for all those bad things.

Post-It Kiss
Make a post-it note trail that leads to your lips. On each note leave a lipstick kiss and an arrow or clue to find the next note. Place the last note over or near your lips.

Full Body Meltdown
While your partner is laying down, slip over to them and start running your tongue, very gently, up their leg, arms, reaching their lips give them a full passionate kiss.

The Grandious Tease
Softly run your fingers across your partner's lips, lure them in to kissing you, but before you kiss, pull away and then go in for the kiss, then pull away again, etc., etc.

Proper Care of Your Erotic Toys

Proper Care for Your Toys
Many people think they know the proper care for their personal products, but, in fact, the things many of us THINK are good for our toys…are actually very destructive to them. Here are some helpful tips to keep not only your toys in excellent condition but you healthy!

When your toy first arrives, take it out of the package and clean it thoroughly to remove any dust or foreign particles that may have settled on it during manufacturing and shipping.

Your own body's natural Ph (acid in your skin) will slowly over time eat away at soft jelly surfaces on your toys if it is not removed! This even means just massage mitts! And, of course, we definitely don't want to let the even STRONGER acids from bodily fluids settle on our products!

Be sure to clean your products as soon as possible after each use! The longer oils, lotions, and bodily fluids are in contact with those surfaces, the more damage that will accrue over time. This is one factor that determines how long the product will last.

NEVER wash your jelly/latex/silicone/cyberskin products with antibacterial soaps! Although these are extremely deep-cleaning products, they will begin to degrade the protective coating of these soft toys.

If you notice your toy's surface feels rough, throw it away! This means the surface is damaged and can harbor bacteria in those microscopic holes. This can lead to infections for you!

Always wash your toys with an adult toy cleaner. Work the cleaner into the product well to make sure it's clean and you get it into any textured crevices. Rinse with lukewarm to cool water and make sure all of the cleaner is removed.

DO NOT dry soft-surfaced toys with a towel. The towel will leave lint on these toys, which can be harboring bacteria-laden moisture. Try to air-dry your toys as much as possible, and then store them in a covered container to prevent any foreign particles from landing on them. Powder Cyberskin toys with cornstarch after cleaning and store in an airtight container.

If you notice any unusual itching or burning during or after use of a product, discontinue use. If you are certain the toy is thoroughly clean, consult your physician. You may be experiencing an allergic reaction to the material the toy is made of. The safest hypoallergenic toys available are those made from plastic, acrylic, AcryLite, polycarbonates, and most favorably, glass. If you are in doubt of a product's material, consult your FYP representative or the manufacturer of the product itself.

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