13 Secrets of Self-Love: The Art of Female Self-Pleasuring

13 Secrets of Self-Love
Since ancient civilization, self-pleasuring (autoeroticism) has been practiced as a natural and elegant way of honoring the gift of a body and communing with one's inner divinity. Even today, sex therapists extol the benefits of self-pleasuring as a vital tool for self-knowledge and relationship enhancement. Sexual satisfaction with a lover is attained by first becoming a sexual virtuoso with yourself. Simply put it’s the LAW OF ATTRACTION!

Secret #1: Self-pleasuring is the single most important thing you can do to become a truly great lover

You learn: what most turns you on, what makes you feel less inhibited, what feels good, how long you like to be stimulated, how sensitive your sexual areas are, the best way for you to reach orgasm etc.
Intimacy Aids: Instructional DVDs, Erotic Toys

Secret #2: Self-pleasuring makes you feel sexy

Thinking about sex makes you feel sexy; preparing to have sex makes you feel sexy; knowing and appreciating your body makes you feel sexy. The more pleasure you get the more you want. The more you learn to enjoy, the more you can handle.
Intimacy Aids: Bath & body products, creams, lotions

Secret #3: Self-pleasuring puts you in touch with your bodyMost of the time, we ignore our bodies.

A luxurious session of self-play can help you focus attention on the sensations of your skin, muscles and erogenous zones. You can reclaim the joy of being alive and having a body that was made for pleasure.
Intimacy Aids: Massage oils, massage mits, lubricants

Secret #4: Self-pleasuring strengthens and increases the flexibility of your love muscle

Having strong and flexible pelvic muscles is crucial to great sex. In women, the pubococcygeus muscle is the main love muscle - it's the one that contracts during orgasm. Conversely, the increased blood supply and toning contractions of orgasm vitalize the muscle. You can exercise these muscles during self-pleasuring.
Intimacy Aid: Smart Balls

Secret #5: Self-pleasuring teaches you how to have orgasms - easily and quickly

Many women have never had an orgasm with or without a partner. Some are not sure if they have or not. The truth is once you learn how and where your body needs to be stimulated to have an orgasm, you can be in charge and have them any time you want. You can try out all kinds of fun things in complete privacy.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Clitoral Stimulants

Secret #6: Self-pleasuring puts you in control of your own pleasure

When you know your own body and its sexual responses you can control whether, when and how to have your orgasm - with or without a partner.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Glass Dildos, Dongs

Secret #7: Self-pleasuring leads to self-confidence in all areas of life

When you know how to turn yourself on and realize that you can do so anytime without depending on anyone else, you will gain a tremendous sense of self-control and self-confidence. This surety in yourself spreads to other areas of your life. You can become an asset to the rest of the world when you're happy, strong and fulfilled.

Secret #8: Self-pleasuring is the key to overcoming sexual guilt and self-repression

Our bodies love to be stroked and caressed. They thrive on it. If deprived of physical affection they can become ill. Finding out that self-pleasuring is a natural and beautiful function, something that makes you feel good about yourself and more loving to those around you, frees you of all that guilt you may be carrying around.You will be able to express your sexuality and your true self more freely - and with your lucky lover. You can start enjoying sex more and regretting it less.

Secret #9: Self-pleasuring promotes health, well-being and energy

Your sex muscles are not isolated. Healthy well-toned pelvic muscles lead to healthy well-toned stomach and leg muscles etc. as well as increased flow of blood and energy. It boosts your energy production and releases endorphins which create a sense of well-being. So for a quick mental and physical pick-me-up that will also build longer-term health - indulge in your favorite form of self-play.

Secret #10: Self-pleasuring reduces stress and tension

The intense muscular and emotional release of self-induced orgasm provides a tonic for anxiety, tense muscles, job stress (but be careful doing it at the office!!) or just general frustration. Stress and tension restrict the flow of blood and energy through your body and cause blocks to creativity, good health and joyful living. Self-pleasuring can soothe and release these tensions with the simple touch of a finger!! It can also help you to sleep.

Secret #11: Self-pleasuring enhances lovemaking with your lover

If you're hot, you can't help but light your lover's fire! You can bring new vigor to your partner's body and imagination. You can be much more creative as a lover and can teach your lover all sorts of sizzling new sex tricks. If you've learnt to be more deeply intimate with yourself, you can be more intimate with your partner.

Secret #12: In the age of HIV/AIDS, self-pleasuring is the ultimate in safe sex

Obviously, when you have sex only with yourself, you are in no danger of catching a sexually transmitted infection from someone else. But even with a partner, self-pleasuring or mutual masturbation with and for each other can be a delightful way to stay safe. Using your hands, vibrators, dildos and even playful fruit, allows you to exchange a lot of loving and fun sexual energy without exchanging body fluids.

Secret #13: The joy of self-pleasuring is always available

Morning, evening, between times, while traveling, at the beach, on a plane, when your partner's sleeping or away, between lovers, after a divorce, when you're lonely - you can always pleasure yourself.

6 Steps To Kissable Lips

Want extra smoochable lips this season?

Of course you do. Here’s how to get them, on the quick!

Step 1.

Prepare your lips by using warm water, a wash cloth and a lip mask or another safe, grainy cleanser. Apply the mask or cleanser directly to moist lips. Allow to set while you prepare the warm cloth. Rub the mask/cleanser off by using circular motions. This will help work most of the dead, dry skin off, revealing smoother, plumper lips. This step should be done once or twice per week.

Step 2.

Slick on a lip balm with SPF. Choose something that is moisturizing, but not greasy. Vaseline is great for night, but is a disaster under lipstick. Allow balm to set on lips for several minutes, if possible.

Step 3.

Line lips. Choose a liner two shades or so darker than your lipstick, and trace your natural lipline, paying special attention to your Cupid’s Bow (the “V” part of your top lip). Once lips are lined, color in the remainder of the lip with the liner as well. This gives a nice base color in case your lipstick later does the slide.

Step 4.

Add color. Now it’s time to slather on your lipstick. After your first coat, grab a lint-free tissue and blot by placing the tissue between your upper and lover lips, and pressing down. Next, swipe on another coat. If possible, separate a 2-ply tissue so it’s one-ply, then place the tissue gently over lips and dab with loose powder. The tissue acts as a filter, allowing just enough of the powder to get through to set the lipstick without changing the lip’s color or texture.

Step 5.

Choose a gloss to highlight and plump. With gloss, you want to dab, rather than slick. A small dab of a shimmery or light-grabbing gloss in the center of your bottom lip will plump up your pout in an instant. That one small move adds dimension and a shot of light to your lips, drawing the eyes of you-know-who right where you want them.

Step 6.

Blot. Place your index finger between your lips and pucker up. See the lipstick left on your skin? That could’ve been on your teeth. Do it again, just to be safe.
So, that’s it. Remember to change up colors to suit your moods, but to also have one “constant” color in your purse or locker for emergencies. Investing in a lip mask is a great idea, but if Santa’s not springing this year, just be sure to work that warm wash cloth around your lips.

Originally published by: Teen Style Lounge

The Art of Kissing

Think back to the days when you and the love of your life (or of the moment at least) kissed; before you actually had sex - either for the first time or the first time for the two of you. Remember how exciting and passionate it was? How it could go on for hours? Well, it's time to take back the KISS as a sensual artform itself, not just a prelude to "the act."

Why, I'm sure you're asking? If you're a sexually active adult, then you must be wondering why shouldn't kissing continue to be foreplay that leads to sex? I'm not saying that we need to ban sex, but what I am suggesting is limiting how far you go from time to time would actually go a long way toward making your sexual experiences richer and even more enjoyable. Are you intrigued?

Let's explore the "Art of Kissing" from an emotional, mental and physical level:

Return to The Days of Innocense.
And yes, that can be a good thing. No matter how much of an, uh ., experienced lass or lad you are, there was a time B.I. - Before Intercourse. A time when everyone knew what the limits were, so there was no pressure about going further. You could just enjoy the moment and all of the new feelings. Of course, there was always the idea of sex in the back of everyone's mind - that's what made the making out so "dangerous" - but for the most part, no one had to seriously confront that issue, so it was just hours of glorious liplock.

You'll be Reminded of Why You Were Attracted to Your Partner in the First Place.

That first kiss in a relationship is so many things - excitement, nervousness, an assessment. (Yes, it's true; we equate the way our partners kiss with how good they'll be while horizontally engaged. This should not come as a surprise to anyone.) It's also the first time we feel that spark - that electrical feeling that jolts us when chemistry is happening between two people. It's giddy, it's arousing, and it can be recaptured.

OK, so you're hopefully warming up to this experiment. Now, how to implement it? I'll be the first to admit that this may take a little cunning - particularly if you're currently in a relationship that has crossed the sexual border many, many times. You don't want to be a complete tease or make your partner think that you aren't attracted to him or her anymore, but you also need to control the situation. So, the most important thing is to undertake this semi-spontaneously. Don't plan an Intercourse Embargo when you've got a special night on the horizon - romantic dinner, an anniversary, etc. - because frankly, that's just cruel.

It will take a bit of resolve on your part as well, because, let's face it, we enjoy having sex with our partners. And honestly, if things do progress to the point of no return, there's certainly no harm in it. You'll just have to try again. and how is that a bad thing?

Suggestions for Successful Kissing:

Take Your Lover by Surprise.

Some of the most exciting kisses are the ones we're not expecting. They don't even have to be soulful, tongue-twisting extravaganzas, either. The next time you're just sitting quietly together or even out walking around, try grabbing your sweetie and laying one on their lips - you'll both be surprised by how satisfying it can be. Just be mindful of where you are, and if things do start to get hot and heavy, do everyone a favor and find a more private spot.

Stay Dressed.

Make sure you're fully clothed before you commit to this endeavor. You're only tempting feelings of rejection if you prance around in something skimpy beforehand and then try to convince your kissing partner not to go any further.

Use Different Techniques to Keep Things Simmering; Not Boiling.

Once you've found a place to get comfortable, don't start going to town immediately. The point is to build things up, not to get you both immediately worked up and frustrated. If there's a move that you know gets your lover's heart racing (like earlobe nibbling or lip biting), do it, but only for a split second. Then get back to the kissing. Maybe kiss around their lips for a little bit, then come back to the main attraction. And don't be frantic about any of it. If you sense that control is being lost, just slow your own pace ,and your partner will most likely follow. Also, it's very important that the furthest south the kissing goes is the collarbone. Do I really need to explain why?

The Art of Kissing (The Embrace)

Remember the importance of embrace...
Nothing feels more comforting than being in the arms of the one you love. Personally, few things get me hotter when my boyfriend and I are kissing than when he places both hands on my face. It just feels so intimate - as though I'm the only one on Earth that he's ever kissed like that. Yes, I know that's not true (yes, it is!), but there's nothing wrong with feeding the fantasy. So, run your fingers through your partner's hair, caress their faces, touch their lips and pull them closer to you.

But also remember the importance of not touching.
Obviously, this kissing-only outing is not going to last if you're both groping each other's privates. Try to keep the fondling to the arms, neck, back and shoulders. If your mate is trying to go for the gold, simply move his or her hand elsewhere. The best move for this is to take the wandering hand and just entwine it with yours, or maybe turn it into a playful restraint situation by taking both of their hands and gently pinning them with your own, above the head or to the sides.

Try getting things started when you know you or your partner have to go somewhere soon.
That guarantees (for the most part - I've not discounted quickies) a stopping point without anyone's feelings getting hurt. It also gives you that revved up, "I can't wait to get back home" feeling that can make for some pretty explosive sexual encounters later.

Mostly, just have fun.
Again, this is to improve your love life, not restrict it. Obviously, if you're feeling it, then you should do whatever makes you feel good. Or if you know that your partner will be taken aback by not "closing the deal," then teasingly whisper that you're trying to get them hot and bothered so that when you do make love later, it will be better than ever.

So there you have it - a simple blueprint for Makeout City. Whether or not you use these particular techniques, kissing your own sweet baboo (and no, that's not a euphemism for any body part) will enrich and enliven your relationship. Not to mention, it will assure your partner that you love them and lets them know that, regardless of the longevity of your twosome, you are still attracted to them. Now, go load up on lip balm, turn on the radio, and get to smooching!

The Kissing Guide

And for those that want MORE Direction--- The following is a list of some simple techniques to spice up a kiss:

Triumverat
Kiss between the eyes, on the tip of the nose, and then on the lips.

Top and Bottom
Kiss the top lip, then the bottom lip, then both.

Lickable Lips
Run the tip of your tongue along your partner's lips.

Earlobecstacy
Gently kiss, nibble, and suck on the earlobe.

Facial Lines
Trace the neck and jawbone with your lips and tongue.

The Big Tease
Kiss everywhere but the lips, until your partner pulls you to their lips.

Caressed Lips
Rub your finger gently across their lips and then go in for a kiss.

Sensuality
Look in their eyes and whisper you want to kiss them. Press your lips gently to theirs', caress their lips with yours and then give her/him a passionate kiss.

Cheeky
Gently brush cheeks with your partner.

Eskimo Kiss
Gently rub the tips of your noses together.

Butterfly
Brush eyelashes with your partner. Make a fluttering motion of the eyelash by quickly opening and closing the eye.

Rose Petals
Make a small "O" with your lips. Press your lips against your partner's skin and suck softly. Lift your lips off a little, move over slightly, and repeat.

Hostage Kiss
Cover your lips with tape and get your partner's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say, tell them, "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss them passionately.

Strawberry Secret
Place a strawberry in your mouth without your partner knowing. Crush the strawberry in your mouth and feed some to your partner while you kiss.

Cold as Ice
Put a piece of ice in your mouth without your partner knowing. Kiss them on the neck and let the ice softly touch their skin.

Back Kisses
Snuggle up behind your partner and proceed to cover their back with little kisses.

Foot Kisses
When your lover comes home from work, or wherever, wash their feet and give them a massage. While you're giving them the massage, lean over and give little kisses on their feet.

Hershey's Kiss
Try not to kiss your partner all day. Throughout the day leave Hershey's kisses or some sort of romantic candy in places that they will know it's for them. Later in the day start leaving notes with poetry or quotes on kissing for them. After that, leave a love letter describing how you'd like to kiss them and the satisfaction that it would bring you. Once you feel they've had enough teasing, spend sometime rewarding them with lots of kissing! This is rewarding for yourself as well, since you've been thinking about kissing them all day too.

Red Light Kiss
When in the car with your partner, every time you stop at a red light, lean over and kiss them until the light goes green.

Recorded Kiss
Record the sound of yourself blowing a kiss. Then either e-mail it to your partner or leave a note somewhere with instructions to press play.

Video Kiss
Record on a videotape or web cam yourself blowing kisses to your partner and tell them how much you miss them.

E-mail Kiss
Draw or animate a pair of lips kissing. Then send it to your sweetheart.

The Lost Kiss
Look around your partner, looking under things and appearing like you're searching for something. When asked what you're looking for, say "I've been looking for a kiss all day but I can't find one anywhere. Oh wait, I found it." Then give your partner a kiss.

Wake Up Kiss
Before your partner awakes, lean over and kiss their cheek. Then give soft kisses across their cheek until you reach their lips.

Make Up Kisses
At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and ask them how his/her day went. Silently keep track of all the bad things that happened during the day. When he/she is finished, give them a kiss for each one. When asked what you are doing, say you are helping make up for all those bad things.

Post-It Kiss
Make a post-it note trail that leads to your lips. On each note leave a lipstick kiss and an arrow or clue to find the next note. Place the last note over or near your lips.

Full Body Meltdown
While your partner is laying down, slip over to them and start running your tongue, very gently, up their leg, arms, reaching their lips give them a full passionate kiss.

The Grandious Tease
Softly run your fingers across your partner's lips, lure them in to kissing you, but before you kiss, pull away and then go in for the kiss, then pull away again, etc., etc.

Proper Care of Your Erotic Toys

Proper Care for Your Toys
Many people think they know the proper care for their personal products, but, in fact, the things many of us THINK are good for our toys…are actually very destructive to them. Here are some helpful tips to keep not only your toys in excellent condition but you healthy!

When your toy first arrives, take it out of the package and clean it thoroughly to remove any dust or foreign particles that may have settled on it during manufacturing and shipping.

Your own body's natural Ph (acid in your skin) will slowly over time eat away at soft jelly surfaces on your toys if it is not removed! This even means just massage mitts! And, of course, we definitely don't want to let the even STRONGER acids from bodily fluids settle on our products!

Be sure to clean your products as soon as possible after each use! The longer oils, lotions, and bodily fluids are in contact with those surfaces, the more damage that will accrue over time. This is one factor that determines how long the product will last.

NEVER wash your jelly/latex/silicone/cyberskin products with antibacterial soaps! Although these are extremely deep-cleaning products, they will begin to degrade the protective coating of these soft toys.

If you notice your toy's surface feels rough, throw it away! This means the surface is damaged and can harbor bacteria in those microscopic holes. This can lead to infections for you!

Always wash your toys with an adult toy cleaner. Work the cleaner into the product well to make sure it's clean and you get it into any textured crevices. Rinse with lukewarm to cool water and make sure all of the cleaner is removed.

DO NOT dry soft-surfaced toys with a towel. The towel will leave lint on these toys, which can be harboring bacteria-laden moisture. Try to air-dry your toys as much as possible, and then store them in a covered container to prevent any foreign particles from landing on them. Powder Cyberskin toys with cornstarch after cleaning and store in an airtight container.

If you notice any unusual itching or burning during or after use of a product, discontinue use. If you are certain the toy is thoroughly clean, consult your physician. You may be experiencing an allergic reaction to the material the toy is made of. The safest hypoallergenic toys available are those made from plastic, acrylic, AcryLite, polycarbonates, and most favorably, glass. If you are in doubt of a product's material, consult your FYP representative or the manufacturer of the product itself.

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The Blissful Lotus approach to intimacy is educational and fun, bringing the unique opportunity for your clients to empower their sexuality.

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We will bring our fun intimacy education workshops to your business. The Blissful Lotus educator will present a 2-hour class at your business to create a memorable and unique experience for your clientele.

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• Secrets of the Oral Arts: Pleasing Your Man
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• Libido 911: Your Rx to Rekindle Passion & Desire
• Law of Attraction: The Secret to Relationships

For Couples

• Kama Sutra Sex Positions & Other Tempting Treats
• How to Please a Woman: Your Guide to Everlasting Love
• Tantric Workshop: 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples
• Tantra Sensory Foreplay
• Erotic Kissing for Couples

Co-Ed Workshops

• The Art of Talking Dirty
• Tantric Sex 101
• Threesomes & More: For Couples Who Want More

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• Multi-Orgasmic Man Training: Learn to Extend Your Lovemaking Experiences

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Events work best for a group of 6+, but no more than can comfortably be seated at your business. We'll work together and tailor the event specifically to suit your needs.

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These events focus on the more light-hearted playshop topics (ie. Sex Appeal for the Empowered Woman, Erotic Kissing for Couples) that help create those purely sensual moments. At the event, your clients will learn how to empower their sexuality and be seduced by a wonderful assortment of our sensual oils, luscious creams, silky lubricants, scented mists, tasty body powders and many other items guaranteed to create that special intimate encounter.

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