13 Secrets of Self-Love: The Art of Female Self-Pleasuring

13 Secrets of Self-Love
Since ancient civilization, self-pleasuring (autoeroticism) has been practiced as a natural and elegant way of honoring the gift of a body and communing with one's inner divinity. Even today, sex therapists extol the benefits of self-pleasuring as a vital tool for self-knowledge and relationship enhancement. Sexual satisfaction with a lover is attained by first becoming a sexual virtuoso with yourself. Simply put it’s the LAW OF ATTRACTION!

Secret #1: Self-pleasuring is the single most important thing you can do to become a truly great lover

You learn: what most turns you on, what makes you feel less inhibited, what feels good, how long you like to be stimulated, how sensitive your sexual areas are, the best way for you to reach orgasm etc.
Intimacy Aids: Instructional DVDs, Erotic Toys

Secret #2: Self-pleasuring makes you feel sexy

Thinking about sex makes you feel sexy; preparing to have sex makes you feel sexy; knowing and appreciating your body makes you feel sexy. The more pleasure you get the more you want. The more you learn to enjoy, the more you can handle.
Intimacy Aids: Bath & body products, creams, lotions

Secret #3: Self-pleasuring puts you in touch with your bodyMost of the time, we ignore our bodies.

A luxurious session of self-play can help you focus attention on the sensations of your skin, muscles and erogenous zones. You can reclaim the joy of being alive and having a body that was made for pleasure.
Intimacy Aids: Massage oils, massage mits, lubricants

Secret #4: Self-pleasuring strengthens and increases the flexibility of your love muscle

Having strong and flexible pelvic muscles is crucial to great sex. In women, the pubococcygeus muscle is the main love muscle - it's the one that contracts during orgasm. Conversely, the increased blood supply and toning contractions of orgasm vitalize the muscle. You can exercise these muscles during self-pleasuring.
Intimacy Aid: Smart Balls

Secret #5: Self-pleasuring teaches you how to have orgasms - easily and quickly

Many women have never had an orgasm with or without a partner. Some are not sure if they have or not. The truth is once you learn how and where your body needs to be stimulated to have an orgasm, you can be in charge and have them any time you want. You can try out all kinds of fun things in complete privacy.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Clitoral Stimulants

Secret #6: Self-pleasuring puts you in control of your own pleasure

When you know your own body and its sexual responses you can control whether, when and how to have your orgasm - with or without a partner.
Intimacy Aids: Vibrators, Glass Dildos, Dongs

Secret #7: Self-pleasuring leads to self-confidence in all areas of life

When you know how to turn yourself on and realize that you can do so anytime without depending on anyone else, you will gain a tremendous sense of self-control and self-confidence. This surety in yourself spreads to other areas of your life. You can become an asset to the rest of the world when you're happy, strong and fulfilled.

Secret #8: Self-pleasuring is the key to overcoming sexual guilt and self-repression

Our bodies love to be stroked and caressed. They thrive on it. If deprived of physical affection they can become ill. Finding out that self-pleasuring is a natural and beautiful function, something that makes you feel good about yourself and more loving to those around you, frees you of all that guilt you may be carrying around.You will be able to express your sexuality and your true self more freely - and with your lucky lover. You can start enjoying sex more and regretting it less.

Secret #9: Self-pleasuring promotes health, well-being and energy

Your sex muscles are not isolated. Healthy well-toned pelvic muscles lead to healthy well-toned stomach and leg muscles etc. as well as increased flow of blood and energy. It boosts your energy production and releases endorphins which create a sense of well-being. So for a quick mental and physical pick-me-up that will also build longer-term health - indulge in your favorite form of self-play.

Secret #10: Self-pleasuring reduces stress and tension

The intense muscular and emotional release of self-induced orgasm provides a tonic for anxiety, tense muscles, job stress (but be careful doing it at the office!!) or just general frustration. Stress and tension restrict the flow of blood and energy through your body and cause blocks to creativity, good health and joyful living. Self-pleasuring can soothe and release these tensions with the simple touch of a finger!! It can also help you to sleep.

Secret #11: Self-pleasuring enhances lovemaking with your lover

If you're hot, you can't help but light your lover's fire! You can bring new vigor to your partner's body and imagination. You can be much more creative as a lover and can teach your lover all sorts of sizzling new sex tricks. If you've learnt to be more deeply intimate with yourself, you can be more intimate with your partner.

Secret #12: In the age of HIV/AIDS, self-pleasuring is the ultimate in safe sex

Obviously, when you have sex only with yourself, you are in no danger of catching a sexually transmitted infection from someone else. But even with a partner, self-pleasuring or mutual masturbation with and for each other can be a delightful way to stay safe. Using your hands, vibrators, dildos and even playful fruit, allows you to exchange a lot of loving and fun sexual energy without exchanging body fluids.

Secret #13: The joy of self-pleasuring is always available

Morning, evening, between times, while traveling, at the beach, on a plane, when your partner's sleeping or away, between lovers, after a divorce, when you're lonely - you can always pleasure yourself.